Skip to content

Clarity ….



You have to love it. You go through life thinking you’ve got a pretty good handle on your life, or, much of it anyway. You’ve got a positive attitude. You consider yourself relatively happy and healthy. Then, as the universe will make very clear to you in her little snarky benevolent way sometimes, “No, you’ve got work to do sister/mister.”

So you begin to tune into your instinct/intuition, that gnawing gut feeling that something is wrong in your life. You hate to have to admit that the something wrong is your most intimate relationship. How did this happen? When did this happen? Red flags keep popping up that you brush away. You’re comfortable. You’ve grown complacent. Your partner is a good person. but you know in your heart of hearts, you and he/she aren’t meant to be together for the long haul. You may be able to ignore this uneasy feeling for a brief time, but it will prove to be
relentless — urging you to take action. You will eventually realize you’ve got to do something. Someone has to man up in the relationship! You come to the realization that if you
don’t end what is a sinking ship, your partner never will. They may be passive aggressive, too immature, or are too fearful to make a move. If you wait too long to act, you may find yourself resenting, or beginning to interact with this person in unkind ways that are foreign to you. It’s never easy to end a union, especially if you’ve been together for awhile. It’s far worse to remain in a relationship that is going nowhere because you aren’t on the same page emotionally, spiritually, and physically.


Do yourself and your soon to be ex-significant other a favor – be strong and courageous enough to end the charade. It won’t be easy, or pain free. But, it’s something that needs to be dealt with. You will both thank each other and can move on and find your true happiness.

Life is too short to look backwards or be unhappy.